A letter from a reader...

I received this story via E-mail last night with a side note attached...


"please post this on your blog at your earliest possible convenience as it is far too long to post as a comment in your last - - Thanking you in advance, XXXX"

It looked to be like any other Internet connection. A smile arrived in my inbox. We exchanged a few semi-witty emails. We rolled over to chat on instant messenger. We even had a couple of phone conversations. It was our time spent on the phone, talking about family life, past dating experiences and strange objects found in our fridge that really changed things for me, though. It was there that the real romance began…

We both had busy schedules. I worked all day and she spent long hours at night in the school lab, pressing her education to the limits as she fought to find a cure for cancer. Her passion inspired me. When she spoke of it, a feeling washed over me and I began to see life as something bigger than the bubble I was living in. I saw life as more important than the sum of evenings spent out at the clubs, flirting with strangers and quaffing adult beverages. The power of working for a greater good became very real and I wanted to be a better person from just a handful of phone conversations. We agreed to meet, but then something happened. I’m not sure if she met someone, if I messed up somehow, or her previous love was back in her life, but the day before we were to finally connect, she dropped off the radar.

The series of chats we have will be hard for me to forget. It’s a love story that is sad for me to tell. Even though we never connected, the feelings were genuine and they have left their mark on my life. I’ll always remember the girl that made me want more in life than just another date… :(

My friends have told me that you shouldn't worry XXXX, there are plenty of other fish in the sea.

I hate that saying. It is a saying that people use to try and help someone rebound. Emotional pain is probably the worst pain known to humans. It's hard to recover, but most do in time. I
have known "fishermen" that have given up on "fishing" just because one got away. Blogger, I know you have dealt with many of life's issues that were thrust upon you, I only wish I were as strong as you.

I'm making up my own saying, "there are plenty of fish in the sea to meet me halfway." Meaning, I'll drop my hook into the water, but it's up to fish to do the rest.

With thanks,

XXXX


Thank you for sharing your story with us, XXXX. I know it must be rough on you. Losing love is never easy.

The good news is, XXXX... I may be able to help you out.
Shockingly, XXXX... the vast majority of what men naturally do after a breakup actually ensures they will never get back together with their ex girlfriend.

Are you XXXX, or anyone reading this, guilty of the below?

-Acting depressed so your ex girlfriend will feel bad for you and want you back out of pity?
-Telling your girlfriend you will change and that things will be different next time?
-Using phony, manipulative trickery such as guilt to bribe your ex girlfriend back to you?
-Futilely trying to reason, argue and use logic to persuade your ex girlfriend to come back to you?

LOL at that last one as women make decisions based on emotion and not logic. Were you guilty of that last one, XXXX?

You know where to find me, XXXX.

And remember,

Tomorrow is Another Day.